What today taught me

As I sat in class, I realized how much time has passed by. I am senior in college, and I plan on graduating in the fall. Today, showed me how much I still need to learn and experience to be ready for the “real world”

The “real world” scares me, it haunts me, and teases me. No matter how much I feel I am ready to graduate, I feel I would never be ready for what the future holds. It scares me knowing that I could fail, it scares me that after a hard four years I might not get a career that I am working hard for.

My family and friends say, just focus on the present. If you focus on what is in front of you now then the big things will happen for you. I feel that is just me personally, I always focus on the future, I always think of things before, decisions are even made. I look at all aspects of a situation and figure out all outcomes. I don’t know why I do, I have been doing that since I could remember.

I sometimes drive myself crazy, but is it wrong to worry? Graduating in the fall, is a challenge. You feel that you need to soak everything in, trying to fit all those “last first times” keeping up with your friends, and staying on top of your school work. You want to experience as much as you can, because college is the glory days of having fun and feeling young forever.

Taking my law exam and ending the day with a poor grade. I find myself thinking, am I truly ready? Maybe, it is just the first weeks of the semester just piling up, but I have nothing to fall back on.

That is what’s scary. You have nothing to fall back on, you only have yourself and it is up to you, to figure out your path. Since kindergarten, school is all we know and now you are transitioning into a phase where you have no safety net.

What I learned today, is to keep working hard, and turning the negative thoughts into positive ones, so that can be the catalyst in myself and hopefully a bright future.

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Giving Up Brand Challenge! Videos!

Hey everyone! This is an assignment that I did for one of my Public Relations classes! It is called the Self-deprivation assignment, or I like to call it the giving up the brand challenge.

Basically, you give up your favorite brand for a week, and you need to replace it with a brand that is a competing brand, or a brand that you feel doesn’t match up with your favorite product.

I decided to give up my favorite face wash, it is called Oil-Free Acne Wash Pink Grapefruit Foaming Scrub, from Neutrogena! I hope you all enjoy my videos! Sorry that I uploaded links I’m still new to this site, so I’m trying to figure everything out lol some uploading video advice would be greatly appreciated! πŸ™‚

Either way, I hope you all have the patience with the links and watch my videos! I hope you all enjoy my journey giving up my favorite product for a week! πŸ™‚

DAY 1

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Day 2

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Day 3

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Day 4

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Day 5/6

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Day 7

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Cause I’m all about that bass

I believe everyone knows the song that I am talking about. Β This old school feel song, is getting some well full, figured women some attention! Be proud ladies! Living in this world is tough, always having standards set way to high for us, needing us to be the perfect size, this song is a compliment to those who are happy just the way they are. No one should tell you how to feel beautiful.

I remember when coming into college, I knew a lot of attention was going towards those who have a smaller number on the scale, but I never wanted that to be the reason why someone liked me. I wanted people to like me because, of my personality and that I am a good person. I remember my roommate would tell me, that guys are just into looks in college, and that could be the case because everyone is just the birds and the bees around here, but that is nothing new just comes with the territory! side note! (Always remember glove is love!)

As I got older, I feel times are changing with this though. I’m gonna lie, I’m a big girl, curves in I don’t know if they are in the right places, but I’m happy with what I have. A lot of men do talk to me, a lot of men took me out on dates. It is not impossible! Let’s take Marc Anthony of example! We can be honest, he isn’t the first man you think of when you think celebrity crush or sexy, but his personality and confidence lights up the room and that is what I feel gets peoples attention.

People always want to be surrounded by those who have a strong positive energy about them. If you are on the bigger size, let that be your upper hand. Never give in to people and never be something you are not! Be yourself and always just live your life simply, beautifully, and be humble :3

Sometimes my life is being Clinton from “What not to wear”

Being in college you are always surrounded by new people and different experiences. An interesting part of starting the new academic year, is seeing the fashion of some students, the biggest reflection of what is in style is noticing what your peers are wearing. I am all about you dressing whatever represents you, but I do believe you need to have some sense and respect for yourself when presenting yourself to the school population.Β 

l am not saying go out in your prom dress, but dress like if you were going on a casual outing with your friends. I personally wouldn’t consider myself a Rachel Zoe, but looking nice is a big part of my life. My mother has always told me that dressing nice always makes a great impression, and in some cases you should care what people think of you. I highly doubt, that most of you are going to interviews in sweatpants and a shirt that you have put on repeat for the past 3 days.Β 

Being in your twenties, gives you a chance to be open with you style and see what works for you. Personally, in a college environment a lot of young women believe showing off skin is a form of fashion and being sexy, and it can be! but it needs to be in the right setting, going to your 9 am class in your shortest skirt seems a little to much. Men also, I do not to see your cut off shirt on the sides with your abs sticking out, I am not concentrating on that. Honestly, seeing a beautiful layered outfit is sexy and fashionable, and casual button downs with jeans for men is just as sexy.Β 

Again! fashion is form of expression and it can be whatever you want, this is just my view. I’ll tell you why I am writing this post, it is because the other day I was walking out of my class and I saw this student a young woman, wearing a sports bra and jeans. Hair in a messy bun and a zip up jacket open. I spoke to my friends with what I saw and I wasn’t the only one who thought this was unacceptable. You are in college, man or woman please look decent for school. Believe me, I have my lazy days too, sweat pants and a simple t-shirt, but jeez what I saw was just not okay.Β 

To me dressing up, makes me feel good, and it should make you feel good too! Dressing up makes me feel confident, again lazy days happen but, most of the time I am dressed up for school. I think it is also the public relations in me, being in the public relations major, majority of students are dressed nice. Honestly, I think it adds some friendly competition, because I think we are all very stylish people and I believe we all influence each other. Also being in this major, we get drill in our heads to dress professionally.

I just think we should remember that we should always present ourselves positively and openly, and that we love ourselves. I know this is probably overly said, but it is true, once you love yourself nothing else matters. Do not dress yourself having the attitude, “I don’t care” You never know what is going to happen during the day, and whether it was bad or good. You can always still look in the mirror and say “damn, at least I still look good today”Β 

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#newgenerationproblems

Before meeting my current boyfriend, I have been on a ton of dates! It was at a point that I was going on a date basically every weekend the year before I met my new boyfriend. Dating was a new scene for me when I started getting back into the swing of things.Β 

My last relationship was someone I met in high school, dating back then was more innocent, fun, and playful. You know the feeling, walking down the hallways holding hands and everyone is staring at you. Whether you admit it or not, you basically were showing off. Dating in college, is just a whirlwind of over analyzing, no trust, and constant worry. It is scary and I don’t blame anyone who doesn’t want to be tied down when attending college. I have had my fair share of casual outings, small lunch dates, to hook ups. I feel I have experienced the generation of this new dating. This new dating era, is silent just an endless of dead silence.

Communication, is key in every situation, I am ashamed to say that in a world where my generation is considered the smartest, because of the advancement of technology, we are also considered the generation with a lack of social skills. Dating has become that way too.

Talking over the phone has become such a fear, that to me it is unacceptable. This might be old fashion, but if you are a man and you like a woman you should call her. Calling shows her that you want to invest the time with her and that you care. I don’t care what anyone says, but texting is the not the same as calling. Texting creates a lot of misunderstood messages, and kissy and winky faces should not be the equivalent of words that I think anyone would rather hear.

I remember I would ask guys to call and how awkward they would feel because I asked. I guess it is hard being in college, because guys are not looking to settle down with someone they just want to have fun, as women do also. Sex is given way to easily now I believe, which confuses both parties. Men use love to get sex, and women use sex to get love. It is true. Men know that women want to find love and they will find ways to manipulate that idea to get their “7 minutes… or less in heaven” and women know that men want sex and feel that it is going to lead them to love.Β 

Not saying that it doesn’t, because I know a few relationships that are still going strong and sex was the first thing, before a relationship. As humans we all have needs, we all look for a companion even just for a night, because we are a social species, we are programmed to interact with each other, so it is not a surprise that sometimes we get lonely. Believe me, that one hot steamy night, is definitely okay once and awhile.Β 

As young adults we cannot be roaming the earth like this forever. There needs to come a point in time when we need to get ourselves in check. Finding love is hard enough, finding a boyfriend/girlfriend is I think, the hardest part of it all. I believe it is because, we just don’t care anymore. We don’t care who we hurt, we don’t care who we sleep with, we don’t care about traditional ideas, it is just a big pile of No F**** given!Β 

No matter how much you text a person, it comes down to the effort! When a woman or man shows effort it gives the person they are seeing a positive feeling and reassurance. We play so many head games with each other, no wonder why we all develop so many trust issues men and women alike, because we just want to get what we want and that is it. How about this? let’s treat people respectfully. Let us treat people like beings and acknowledge that they exist. Awkward conversations and ignoring happens way to often.Β 

I also feel it is the way of thinking of men and women. Men, do not think that every women wants to have sex with you, just because we are being nice and maybe a little flirtatious, they are not signs of ” I am going home with you tonight” Women, do not think men want you either, just because he is texting you or talking to you doesn’t mean he wants a relationship or that he really likes you, women need to stop assuming that so we can stop being so nervous around men. Let us just be cool with each other, go to the bar have a drink, laugh, be happy, make good conversation and just take it from there. One easy step at a time. I honestly, would not mind going back to high school, so dating can just be simple again.Β 

When you finally made it!

College is such an exciting time, yes all that normal stuff.. discovering yourself and all that, but I’m talking about the BIG 21! yes! You know you have finally reached status when you are not attending those house parties anymore and you can go downtown and know you can drink without being kicked out!Β 

Tonight a very special person in my life turned 21, my old roommate. I was so honored to spend this night with her, literally just her and I. I feel as the person who is 21, taking this person out is like your responsibility and an honor at the same time. My roommate and I have only known each other for 2 years, and I love that out of everyone she wanted to spend her first night being 21 with me.Β 

I took my girl tonight and paid for everything! It is a Wednesday, but that never stops a 21st birthday! 21st birthdays as we all know are special, it is the one night/day out of year where you can celebrate a long hard road of being to young, awkward teenage days, to the years where you are so close yet still so far, and now the big moment has arrived! Who wouldn’t want to celebrate a long, awaited wait?!

To anyone who reads this and is going to turn 21 good luck and be nice to your friends! to those who are 21, remember the moment and smile, because you know after 21 it’s just another number after that, and I should know… turning 22 in 2 weeks is just going to be another day. What I wouldn’t give.. if I could just relive my whole 21st birthday once again!Β 

Take time to realize

I love Angelina Jolie, and her wedding dress, people who say otherwise well.. bye Felicia! no, in all seriousness, her wedding was stunning and done in all Angelina fashion. Surrounding herself with what a real wedding is all about, and that is family, love, support, and simple beauty.Β 

I am not married and I do not plan on getting married anytime soon, but the idea of having her children’s pictures on her veil, was beautiful, and I feel it symbolizes what is really important. Watching reality TV and all these stars getting married and TLC shows about weddings, makes me think, what is really important? A wedding is when two people who love each other come together to celebrate a commitment. I feel it has just become this big show, over priced dresses, venues, doves flying, fireworks. I know over exaggerated, but I feel people have forgotten the simplicity of it, in to why getting married is special, and it is just one answer, you love the person.

If I get any comments on this post, I bet someone will say, “Well, you are young you don’t know what love is.” and my response would be “do you?” I am recently in a relationship, but before I met my current boyfriend, I was with someone for five years! five years of my life dedicated to this person and not once did I cheat, curse, or put him down in any way, we were completely happy with each other and we loved each other. Just because you are young or old, those feelings you can’t explain when you are around someone is real, butterflies, happiness, isn’t that love?Β 

Why does love need to be measurable? and even after you get married, love does not end, you still love the person, and love should never stop it should be continuous. Love is not about gifts or sending winky faces and hearts to each other via text message, pick up the phone and call someone, or take the time to see someone you haven’t seen in awhile. We should all take the time to realize the good we all have, whether it is in a relationship or the love for your friends, family or pets. You would simply do anything for anyone of those special beings in your life, because the key word is LOVE, and love is a powerful thing.Β 

Props to Angelina, who I feel really saw the true meaning of what love is, which she did in simple fashion, and that is just being surrounded by love yourself. So I guess the real thing to realize, is just be surrounded by the ones who love you, and from that love will follow with you everywhere ❀